Wednesday, December 2, 2015

I'm Happy For You (Sort Of...Not Really):Finding Contentment in a Culture of Comparison by Kay Wills Wyma

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Book Information
Genre: Inspirational self-help
  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: WaterBrook Press (May 5, 2015)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1601425953
  • ISBN-13: 978-1601425959

Synopsis: Is comparison living hijacking your life? 

Do you find yourself measuring your value against your friend’s house, body, marriage, resume, paycheck, organic garden, or Pinterest-worthy holiday décor, and coming up lacking? Do your college roommate’s Instagram snapshots bear little resemblance to the scene at your house this morning?

Excessive comparison and competition sap our energy and steal our joy. Our friends become our audience and judges, and our kids become part of our brand. Add social media’s constant invitation to post and peruse, and it’s no wonder that we’re left exhausted, discontent, and lonely. Thankfully, there is another way!

With  refreshing candor and humor, Kay Wyma shares her experiences with comparison living and offers readers the simple remedies that helped her and her family reboot their perspective and discover freedom, authenticity, and joy.

Review: This is a very thought-provoking, inspiring book. This quote rather succinctly sums up the theme of the whole book: "Looking at what we lack prevents us from noticing how sweet the world already is. But when we shift our focus from what could be to what actually is, we find extraordinary joy in our ordinary lives."

We have all fallen victim to comparing ourselves to others, and finding ourselves wanting. And now, in the age of social media, we have even more opportunities to look at someone else's life (real or idealized) and wish we could be more like them.

The author suggests that using the phrase "I'm happy for you," and actually meaning it, is a much healthier way to react to the good fortune of those around us. She shares some stories from her own life, the perspective of a wife and mother, and uses quite a bit of humor to get her points across. 

This book is very easy to read, and is relatively short at 240 pages. There are "You Are Not Alone" quotes sprinkled throughout, many of which touched a chord with me from the past or the present. 

There is a Christian component to the book, showing that God has a unique plan for each of us, and that we should focus on that more than on what He gives our neighbor.

Highly recommend this book to everyone...will be sharing it with some of the women in my life, for sure!

Rating: Four stars

About the author
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Kay Wills Wyma has five kids, ages four to fourteen, and one SUV with a lot of carpool miles. Before she transitioned to stay-at-home mom, she earned an MBA, worked at the White House, and dabbled in international finance. Happily married to Jon, this self-described recovering enabler is committed to equipping the next generation to achieve great things in the future by piling on the responsibility today.

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